Having your boyfriend decide that he is no longer interested is something that can be quite upsetting.
No matter how long you have been together, you have likely put in time and effort to ensure that you had a solid relationship that would last. And then he decides that he will just up and leave for whatever reason.
It just doesn’t seem right, does it. Well, if you are in this situation, there are some things that you can do to help get him back.
Here are the top five reasons a partner leaves according to goodtherapy.org.
First of all, try to find out why he left in the first place. Did he tell you? Did he tell a friend? While your man may have given you a reason, think about if the reason he gave was the real reason, or was he trying to hide something.
Do some reflecting to see if you can find the reason or reasons that your boyfriend left. Once you discover the reasons, it can help you look into what you can do to change and what he can do.
Next, give it some time. Now, you don’t want to wait forever but give your ex some time to breathe and gather his thoughts. If you two are truly meant to be together, he will come back around soon. During this time, however, let him know that you will be there for him, but don’t push.
Also, reflect on yourself and your actions during this time. What about yourself can you work on? What do you do that makes your ex happy/unhappy/feel loved/upset/etc.? Think about all the times that there have been great times and times that weren’t so great. What made those experiences the way they were? You need to be willing to take some of the blame if you want to have a relationship.
After that, see if your ex-boyfriend would consider some kind of counselling. By talking with a trained professional, the two of you may be able to solve your problems together. No two people are perfect, but when love is involved, taking the effort to make the other person feel special is definitely worth the time investment.
If it has been some time and your ex-boyfriend still hasn’t contacted you, try contacting him, but not in an annoying way. Instead, let him know you are thinking about him, ask him if he would like to go to dinner or meet you for drinks.
Don’t push too hard and don’t get upset if he says no. Instead, wait another day or two and contact him again. If he truly doesn’t want to be with you, then maybe he is having some sort of self-conflict that you will never be able to fix.
As you can see, there are some things that you can do to get your boyfriend back. That is if he is meant to be yours. Try to give him space, find out what it was that caused him to go in the first place, and work on yourself.
If you still need some more help to get your boyfriend to come back into your life, watch this video from Dr.Greg Cason